Sweet Clarity
Oh. My. Goodness.

So I received Martha’s magical binders of brilliance today (two of them - the coaching toolkit and the core class guide) and I’m in h-e-a-v-e-n. 

Ask and it really is given. 

I’m feeling WAY aligned and beyond excited. 

Lesson to be learned - if you want something, ask for it, BELIEVE that it is already on its way (that can be difficult, but do whatever you have to to get to that place of faith), and then take action on the opportunities and inspired ideas that appear along the way.

If I can manifest clarity from feeling lost-ish and overwhelmed in 20 or so days, this means 2 things:

1. I can manifest other things that I want by setting a clear intention

2. You can do it too

Good news for everybody!

love this. 

love this. 

No more counting

Well hello again. Today is March 16. One full month since this amazing life-changing, unbelievably magical and transformational journey began. And all I can say is, wow. And thank you. To myself, to the universe, to my teachers, to my loved and cherished friends and family. 

There’s so much I’ve gotten from this journey. I feel like 30 days ago, I was a different person, and in many ways, I really was. 

The amazingly cool thing is that I got exactly what I was looking for. I got clarity. Sweet, beautiful, clarity. 

In 30 days, I….

  • discovered that I really want to do something more along the lines of life coaching
  • owned that feeling, honored it, and shared it with others
  • signed up with excitement and confidence for Martha Beck’s 2011 life coaching program
  • attracted 2 amazing ideal scholarship clients for my new business, Quarter Life Clarity 
  • came up with the name Quarter Life Clarity

I also…

  • bought an entirely new wardrobe
  • attended Fabienne’s March meeting
  • signed up and attended her Client Intensive Day
  • attracted a new and amazing accountability partner and weekly MM group
  • decided to sign up again for another year of Gold MM
  • found clarity around my relationship with FF
  • started speaking to a girl in the last day or so who might end up being nothing more than one date but is stellar on paper
  • started to track my accomplishments, what I ask for and is then given, and what I’m grateful for
  • got a haircut
  • read you squared

This is what I’ve realized, among many many other things: When life feels scary, overwhelming, anxiety-provoking, and out of control, the best thing to do (at least for me) is to just stop. To turn off the TV. To close my eyes. To breathe. And to. just. BE. 

And that’s not so easy. We’re all in “to-do” mode so much of the time, that the concept of honoring not doing not only feels foreign, but also extremely uncomfortable. 

Here’s the thing. We have the power to calm ourselves, to provide the answers we’re looking for, and to craft solutions for the obstacles in our way. In order to do this, however, we must (a) believe we can, (b) give ourselves the time and space to get quiet, and (c) wait patiently for comfort and guidance to warmly embrace us.

You’re not alone. I’m not alone. But oftentimes, we all feel very alone. When I feel overwhelmed, I often seek comfort outside of myself - oftentimes in people. We all have our drug of choice - food, alcohol, whatever it is. And look, I’m the first person to say that craving a hug after a bad day, indulging in a pint of Ben and Jerrys, or having a glass of wine to calm your nerves is perfectly healthy, extremely common, and beyond reasonable and valid.

BUT, we have the power to provide that exact comfort to ourselves. Sure, hugs, Ben and Jerrys and Merlot might help, but we can provide the same level of comfort by going within and reaching out to ourselves for support. And to know that you can count on you, that you have the power and ability to provide yourself with comfort and guidance, well, it doesn’t get more empowering and rewarding than that. 

Day 19: Calm and free-feeling

Now that I’ve decided what my plan is re: next steps, I feel so much calmer and free - and super excited too! I cannot wait to begin my journey with the ever so brilliant Martha Beck - and meet her too!

It’s going to be JOY-full. 

New beyond favorite song. Heart you KT Tunstall. And possibly the best song to sum up the past 18 days….

I think it’s time to put myself away
Seek out a little silence
Close the doors and sit a while
Walk a little

And as I put my words away
The flow slows
See this penny in a stream
Picking it up is easy.

Follow the shape of it.
Jump in.
Swallow it whole.
Jump in.

Even though I know my way around
Possibly there’s something new I found
Holding on for finding solid ground
Someday soon.
Someday soon.

I’ll turn myself into the grass
And I’ll grow
Take this space above my head
And live in it a little.

Gonna wear my feathered headdress
Like an Indian chief.
Gonna stretch out both my arms
I’m gonna test the temperature.

Follow the taste of it.
Jump in.
Swallow it whole.
Jump in.

Even though I know my way around (even though)
Possibly there’s something new I found (possibly I, possibly I)
Holding on for finding solid ground (ohh..)
Even though I know my way around (even though)
Possibly there’s something new I found (possibly I, possibly I)
Holding on for finding solid ground (ohh..)
Someday soon.
Someday soon.

Maybe walk a little
Someday soon. 

Day 18: Budget and plan ahead

That’s the goal for today….more to soon follow. 

how I’m feeling right now: open, expansive, joyful, excited, grateful, and blessed. 

how I’m feeling right now: open, expansive, joyful, excited, grateful, and blessed. 

My intention to lead week-long or weekend retreats and workshops for amazing people who want to learn, grow, share, love, and live fully and beautifully authentic and rich lives. 

Look at these pictures. Bliss? Beyond, absolutely, and unequivocally YES. 

my brilliant and beloved teacher, the magnificent Martha Beck

Just keep telling yourself that getting what your heart really desires is possible and necessary. Eventually experience will teach you that it’s true.

Martha Beck (one of my heros for the past decade, and now my personal and professional teacher and guide for the next 8 months). YES!

PS. This quote is from her book, The Joy Diet, and next to this quote (back in January 2010), this is what I wrote: My heart really wants to help people problem solve, identify what they want and get it. (I’m happy to experience first-hand that eventually we catch up with what we know, deep down, we *really* want - even if it takes us years). 

Day 17: It’s been a good day friends…

A good day indeed.

Without changing out of my pajamas, showering, or leaving the apartment, I made $2500 today. WOOO HOOOO! Now that even wows me a bit. One of the many perks of being wonderfully in charge of your income. 

So recap….I woke up early this morning….why? because I finally have an *effective* daily accountability buddy, who I heart and who I have made the commitment to speak with every morning M-F at 8:30am to check in and report on what I’m planning to do that day. 

Then I wanted to create an organizing system for myself and my upcoming year’s participation in the Gold Mastermind so I got 2 notebooks (in the pink and green of Embarkability colors - heart CVS!) - one 1 subject and one 3 subject. The 1 subject is for brainstorming and to do listing. The 3 subject is for well, 3 subjects: my accomplishments/successes, things I ask for that are given/signs, and what I’m grateful for/happy about. Why? because what you focus on, multiplies.

Then (yes, there’s more!) I had a brilliant idea to enlist two of my fav people from my mastermind group to do a weekly mastermind group, which will be amazing for all of us AND we’re going to have a collective revenue goal for the next 120 days (until our next meeting in Stamford). I’m thinking 75-90K (that’s 6-7K/month for each of us….thinking we could maybe push a bit farther, but we’ll see). 

Insight #24: You first must declare something and then the opportunities to help you get there appear. I first declared to myself and others  - and even this blog - last night that I was going to do the MB training without having ANY idea how 6K was going to appear. And well, today, I - without leaving my apartment - made $2500. That’s almost half! Ask and it surely is given. 

Feeling extremely supported, aligned, and good about where I am and where I’m heading. 

A new favorite….

a moment, a love
a dream, a laugh
a kiss, a cry
our rights, our wrongs
a moment, a love
a dream, a laugh
a moment, a love
a dream, a laugh

Day 16: Back on track

I missed you Sweet Clarity! (I didn’t write in yesterday, and have started watching TV again….)

But, since we are in the 1/2 way mark, let’s have a check in, shall we?

  • no drinking - check
  • no dating - check
  • no tv - some tv
  • no facebook stalking - none of the detrimental kind
  • no cabs - maybe 1 or 2

And yes, so far, much clarity has been reached. In a way, I feel like I’ve gotten even more clarity about my lack of clarity, if that makes any sense. 

Oh sigh.

What a big few days we’ve had. Two days with Fabienne, reorganizing my binder systems, signing up for another year of Gold, being more and more and more drawn and seemingly led to Martha Beck’s coaching institute. 

I want to help people dream big, and get excited and achieve everything they want to achieve. I want them to feel inspired, ignited, powerful, empowered, ready and confident to go forth and conquer.

So yes, I’ve officially decided. I will be in a graduate of March Beck’s 2011 Life Coaching Training 8 month course. WOOOO HOOOO! Feel re-awakened. 

But when the night is falling
You cannot find the light, light
If you feel your dreams are dying
Hold tight

You’ve got the music in you
Don’t let go
You’ve got the music in you
One dance left
This world is gonna pull through
Don’t give up
You’ve got a reason to live
Can’t forget w
e only get what we give


This whole damn world can fall apart
You’ll be ok, follow your heart

Fly high, high
What’s real can’t die

Act the part and you will become the part.
William James